I don't know if it's because I've always been in a relationship, but can guys really be this dense? And if so, why did I not know this? Maybe I've just been lucky, or just plain oblivious to this fact. But when I became single early last year, I have noticed that a lot of guys are "girlier" nowadays, always wanting to talk and being needy and the like. I don't mind those things in small doses because it can show that the guy really cares and wants the relationship to work, but to be constantly that way? Huh. Not a good thing guys.
But I like the fact that there are guys who recognize their "shortcomings", so to speak, and aren't afraid to ask someone else's opinion. And double points, I think, to those who ask girls on what to do about a girl. I know guys sometimes ask other guys as to what to do. However, remember, we're talking about girls here. I really think that it would be wise to get a second opinion, if you're getting a first one anyway. That way, you can be well-informed on both sides. I admit, it can get confusing, but I think the smart and determined guys can figure it out :-) And no, it doesn't require you to sacrifice your pride, boys.
Alyans and I were talking to another friend a couple of months ago, and she said something that has a ring of truth in it. She said, "If you have any questions about relationships, and anything related to it, ask Ces. She's the expert. But when it comes to being single and dating around and the like? Don't ask her. She knows nothing about that, and she's dense that way. That's where I come in." That's true. Haha.
I'm not a relationship expert. Far from it, I imagine. But I suppose it could come from the fact that I always seem to be in one that people assume that I always know what to do. News flash. There are no set rules to these things. Every relationship is different because the people in it are different. But like I said, asking questions can show an earnest desire to want to make things work, or happen, as the case may be. I admit, I talk to my closest friends about my relationships. Sometimes it helps to just say things out loud, to just talk things out but not necessarily ask for advice. And I'm always willing to help a friend, if I can, because I want them to be happy. :-)
Take earlier this evening, for example. I spent some time chatting with a good friend with regards a girl that he likes. Her birthday is just around the corner and he wanted to give her a gift. But he wanted to portray a particular image. He didn't want to overwhelm the girl but he wanted to make his presence known to her as more than just a friend. (You know how guys hate being placed in the dreaded "friend zone".)
Given that I'm admittedly a girly-girl, or as he says, "the girliest-girl", he wanted my opinion on some flowers and the wording of the accompanying note. We were going for friendly with a touch of sweetness. So, I gave him my honest opinion. The flowers he chose were a two-toned tulip bouquet because he wanted something special (other than roses) but nothing too ostentatious. He wanted cheerful flowers that would make her start her day off with a smile. Then he included a book, whose author was sort of an inside joke with them. I gave a little input on the wording of the note. I think that he just wants to tweak it just a little more before he sends it.
Awwww :-) I hope his girl appreciates his efforts. Cross fingers!
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